As older children grow into teenagers, they will experience changes that can be difficult to understand and manage. When combined with raging hormones and the dynamics of high school, it’s easy to see why teens can lash out at their parents. However, even with a great deal of understanding, it can still be difficult to survive this as the parent of the teen. To help you get through this challenging time, take a look at the tips below.
1. Don’t hold grudges
As a parent with a teen, you’re likely going to face daily struggles dealing with their attitude and never-ending emotions. Try not to hold onto arguments or hurtful words when things get heated. Instead, try to let those eyerolls and complaints go so your home can remain a calm place. However, don’t be afraid to stand your ground if they truly did something you don’t agree with.
2. Always offer love
Always make it a priority to tell your teen you love them, even when you’re not getting along. Combine this with celebrating the times that the two of you are getting along. Whether this means ice cream because they are beginning to talk to you more or a special dinner because of good grades, a small gesture can go a long way in their eyes. Teens need to know you love them no matter what, in both the good and bad times.
3. Set rules
Let your teen know what is acceptable in terms of behavior and even the way they talk to you. By doing so, they’ll know where the line is set and when consequences will subsequently arise. While you may want to be your child’s friend, boundaries are crucial to making sure they respect you.
4. Remember you’ll get what you give
When your teen is giving you attitude, rolling their eyes, and being generally unpleasant, it’s easy to want to yell. However, it’s important to remember that you’re very likely to get back what you give. This can mean a teenager that erupts with emotion that turns into yelling and screaming. Although it can be difficult, your best bet is to sit back, listen, and then give them some space.
5. Spend more time together
It can be easy to lose a close connection with your teen when they’re busy with school and friends. To fight this, try to have a family game night or family outings at least once per week. Even something as simple as a car ride to talk about school can help both of you connect and stay close. In addition to giving you more time together, this can also help reduce breakdowns and fights.
Surviving the teenage years
Dealing with a teenager won’t be easy, especially with heightened emotions around every corner. Many challenges will come your way, even if you have a close relationship with your child. By using the tips above and remembering that these times will pass, you can get through it knowing you’ll come out stronger in the end.